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Faith Post: Self-worth

Sunday, March 17, 2019
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Something of significance I learned is, my self-worth should not be dependent on anyone else. Period. That may sound like common sense, but living it is an entirely different ball game. I promise my rambling will make sense but I am going somewhere with this.

Self-worth is valuing who you are at your core. It is not dependent on what you have, how much you have, or anyone else's opinion of you.

Sometimes, we keep people in our lives to fill the void of being alone. Eventually those relationships grow along with us for good or go bad like expired fruit. The latter can happen when we change ourselves to fit the relationship which only hurts our own growth. No one should hold that kind of power over us.

I cannot allow another soul to take what has already been given to me. I have perfect love from the Father. I don’t have to work for it. I don’t have to beg for it to accept me. I don’t have to hold back. I don’t have to hide. Every unique quality about me is loved by The One who made me. 1 John 4:8 says, "There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment. For whoever fears has not been perfected in love."

I believe we should view ourselves in the same way that Christ sees us. I found myself in ruts because I could not change a perception of who I was to someone else. I understand now that when other people want to keep me under their thumbs, it is usually because they don’t love themselves.

When someone else chooses to focus on slamming my image or character, it is usually because they want to get the pressure off of focusing on who they are. Focusing in on me means they don’t have to heal their own pain.

2 Corinthians 5:17 says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation, the old has gone, the new has come.” Ephesians 2:8 says, “God saved you by His grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God.” Romans 8:37 says, “No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us." Believe what is true according to the word of God.

You can definitely disconnect yourself from people who keep you in your past. I find freedom in letting go of what holds me bound. It is who I find myself being when I keep a relationship like that in my life that becomes the big issue.

I become fearful and full of bitterness when I know there is nothing I can do to be right in someone else’s eyes. We can only change ourselves. Truly mature people understand what it takes to build a solid foundation with another individual (ex. love, trust, forgiveness, patience, prayer, etc).

If those things are not there, you have every right to let it go. God will place safe people in your life that will cultivate a Christ-like atmosphere. Let those expired relationships go.

Self-worth means respecting and loving who you are.  In a day in age where image is everything, it is important to cultivate an attitude of acceptance inwardly. This lets others know how to treat us.

If we passively go through life just accepting bad behavior, no boundaries are established. A few years ago I met this older woman who taught me about self-worth. She said, “ what you carry inside of you is what you give the world.” I want to give love. I want to give joy.


I have prayed many times for the Lord to change my circumstances. Instead of fixing my circumstances, I feel like I am the one who has been healed. I love who I am and who Christ says that I am. I want that for you too.